I lift this section from 'My Heart Speaks' Blog. Do visit that blog if you are hungry!
Choosing to Love
You don't choose whom you love.
He chooses them.
If you had that choice to choose;
then the road would be simple.
Whom he puts in your life, is part of your test:
to bear with them, to accept them and most of all to love them
despite all that they may agitate you with.
After all, they come from Him and they return to Him,
just like you did and will do.
"...And We have made some of you as a trial for others: will you have patience?
And your Lord is Ever All-Seer" (Surah al-Furqan:20)